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Ever witnessed, a parent juggling a child (or several children) and a cart full of groceries while standing in the checkout line at the store, a two year old throwing a tantrum in a restaurant, a child on the playground or other public area by themselves, or that crying child with a pitch that you are sure was used to develop the emergency response sirens while traveling on an airplane. Now, you likely recalled a situation where you observed a parent in one of these situations, or maybe even thought of a time when you yourself had a similar experience. Just imagining the above scenarios may have triggered your stress button or engaged your flight response; after all, parents should be able to control their children, right?
My wife, Joy-Lynn and I became Foster Parent Mentors (FPM) through Heartland for Children in 2012. When we were approached with the opportunity to be an added support for incoming Foster Parents, we jumped at the opportunity because we saw the value in having someone who other Foster Parents could relate to as being an invaluable resource; especially, if the individual(s) were completely new to the fostering and/or parenting experience.
As FPMs through Heartland, we've had the chance to interact with incoming Foster Parents on many levels including assisting with respite, providing guidance or best practices with difficult behavioral issues, advocating for a child who had to be moved from one home to another, making recommendations on working with case management, providing another vantage point through the process of Termination of Parental Rights (TPR), and many other areas that Foster Parents can encounter during their first and continuing years of child advocates.
What we've gained as FPMs is a heightened level of understanding of how important it is to identify the needs of incoming Foster Parents. Being able to make recommendations on how the training component has and can continue to successfully equip incoming parents with the proper training and education; is a value add that Heartland has really welcomed input on.
Cebien Alty - HFC Foster Parent, Foster Parent Mentor